Are you losing sleep about what the guy you have an embarrassing obsession with thinks of you? Maybe your just worn out with the “I cannot tell if he is interested in me” scenario you keep going through in your head? I suggest you take notes on all the juicy clues I am about to share with you.
Consider This. There is a possible chance he is just a shy guy and isn’t capable of giving clear signs about how he feels. But don’t worry, there are always ways to tell if he is really into you. The next time you meet him, try not to be too jittery or forward. Try to subtly observe him, and try to make him comfortable. If your body language and energy gives away clues that your expecting him to make a move first, it can actually backfire and make him pull away.
Before We Begin
I’ve spoken to thousands of eager men and women calling with questions all related to this very issue. It’s very clear in some situations before I begin to tap into my empathic reading abilities that the client is doing everything they can to convince me and themselves that there are endless clues and signs of something electric happening between themselves and their crush.
In some cases it’s clear to anyone who is listening that it’s not what they’re thinking it is. We are all guilty of this kind of love sick dreamy-eyed thinking, and there is no crime in falling into traps like this except for one, it’s called wishful thinking. There is pain that comes with a self delusional fantasy because it can do more damage in the long run than good towards your feelings, expectations, and personal time.
So the most important first step is to be honest with yourself about what’s really going on. Once you clarify it’s not all in your head and still feel there is just something there between you two then read on.
Here is a list of some proven ways to tell if your love interest is feeling the same as you.
1. He will find any excuse to talk to you no matter when, where and for how long, he’ll do it
So how do you know when the guy you cannot stop thinking about is attracted to you too? It’s when he’s taking every chance to talk to you about something, anything, no matter how unimportant it seems. As long as it’s basic communication with you the girl he wants to know better, he will do it. The important thing is that you are talking.
An even more obvious sign of his interest would be when he graduates from regular communication to initiating meetings. For instance he would think up excuses to want to meet you often like asking you to join him for a drink simply to return a borrowed item or delivering official messages by hand when they could have been sent by mail. If all this is true, you can be pretty sure that he likes being with you.
2. He responds to you immediately: Phone calls, text messages, or verbal suggestions of future plans he will respond
Maybe he is testing waters before asking you on a date or maybe he simply likes to talk to you – either way, a desire to communicate on a regular basis is an infallible evidence of a guy’s interest in someone he likes. The validity of this clue becomes more obvious when you consider the reverse situation – for when a guy ‘forgets’ to return your calls or reply to your emails, it is practically certain that he no longer wants to see you anymore.
3. Body language
Look at his body language and take mental notes. The way his body movements changes around you can give vital clues to the mystery of whether he is into you or not. Does he turn his body towards yours, even when you’re in a big group or when you walk into a room? Does he make excuses to touch you, and play it off as a joke or innocent playfulness? Does your crush stand in eye shot of you no matter where you go in the room and you catch them looking at you over and over again. If the answer is ‘yes’ then he can seriously be interested, even though he hasn’t made a move, yet.
4. Pay close attention to his eyes
If they like you, they may either look away quickly if he or she is shy, or they’ll try to catch your eye and hold it or make faces. If you feel like you have held eye contact just a fraction of a second longer than you would with anyone else, or if they look away quickly, then there is something there.
Take notice of their pupils and if they are huge. Either you’re in a super-dark place, or this subtle signal means he’s into you. “Dilation is a brain response that occurs when you like and are attracted to something,”. When they’re around you and they say/do something funny and everyone around laughs, their eyes will flicker towards you for a second to see if you laughed, too. Of course being able to make the one you want chuckle is important for those who are serious about pursuing a potential possibility of dating you. I mean who doesn’t like to laugh and smile right?
**Shy Guy Alert*
A shy guy might give you a little smile from across the room. But when you get near to him, he won’t look up. So if your guy crush stops looking at you the moment you come closer you can check it off as a sure bet he is TOTALLY feeling you!
5. Networking His Way Into Your Life
He might talk more with your friends or co-workers in an effort to be on good terms with them, or to know your availability. If he overhears that you love to go bowling or to art shows on weekends he may begin showing interest in the things you really love to do. Anyone is flattered by others who take an interest in their own hobbies and social activities. So there is always a chance you may invite them to an event as a guest, which is exactly what your crush is hoping for.
Remember you can always chat or speak with me live to get accurate fast details about the one you are feeling romantic about. There is no time like the present to see how he feels. It’s a good chance if he met several of the criteria in this article that he is on board which always feels great to know. Many blessing and I look forward to our next reading!